Maui Wowi!

in the Garden of Eden, Maui, Hawaii | January 2018

Hello, friends! Happy Wednesday – it’s hump day!

I’m sitting here looking out at majestic Lake Washington. The sun and clouds are battling for Seattle’s sky real estate right now. I’m not sure which will win (I hope it’s the sun!). I am so excited that we are just a couple of days away from February. It’s the month that’s still considered fully winter but provides a glimpse of spring with daffodil and tulip teasers popping up from below ground.

I’m so glad to see 2017 behind us. It was a really good year because baby Flora was born in February. But it was also a difficult year with the deaths of five family members and two friends, a saddened state of our Union, and saying goodbye to our kitty, Dandy who found a new home with a really lovely but lonely woman in our neighborhood. I also went back to work. Going back to work was great for me personally, but a huge logistical nightmare with the high cost and low availability of high-quality childcare and preschools. But we are leaving all that to the past. It’s a new year!

We have a few exciting plans lined up for 2018. Nathan and I started off the year with a week on Maui with my sister and brother-in-law. Have you been? We went on our honeymoon a few years ago, but because I was sick we didn’t see nearly enough of the county. It’s a very spiritual place to be in. My favorite part of the trip was the 12-hour day driving the Road to Hana and back. It was pure restoration for the soul. I’m wishing I were back there now… We also saw a tropical plantation, took a snorkel/whale-watching sail (which made me sick), ate deliciously fresh seafood and drank not-strong-enough cocktails. (It was always my dream to have cocktails by the pool, which I finally achieved.) We took photos, enjoyed pool time, and rested. I think I even slept for 12 hours the first night we were there. It was total heaven.

Two big events happened in Maui.

The first was that I was notified of my acceptance into the University of Washington’s Information School Master’s program. This is also one of our exciting plans in 2018. The program (ranked 2nd in the nation!) officially begins in September, though the new-admit wooing of “welcome days” and similar events are already starting. I applied to the program with one objective in mind but before the UW iSchool ever offered me admission, I became undecided. There are so many wonderful career paths to take – librarian, information architect, content strategist, metadata librarian, curator… I really don’t know where to begin. I feel like a Freshman in college all over again! I plan to talk more about this adventure in future posts.

The other big event that happened while we were in Maui was the false alert of a ballistic missile threat. Those minutes were the most terrified I have ever been in my life. I cannot emphasize enough what that fear felt like. I remember wondering if I was in a movie and how much more terrifying it felt than simply watching a movie. Actors don’t do justice to that kind of true fear. Or the deep sadness in believing you won’t see your children again. Or the possibility of being separated from your spouse among tsunami waves – or worse, vaporizing radiation. In the movies, you always expect a happy ending, and in this situation I didn’t. It was horrifying. It happened the day before we left, so when we had to leave Maui, I wasn’t a bit sorry. When we eventually got the “all clear” that the alert was a mistake, I cried for an hour. I still have some post-traumatic stress from the experience when I get alerts on my phone. Mostly, though, I feel grateful to be alive.

Finally, 2018 will be bringing us a new home! We are selling our house after only about four years in it. But, as my husband hears from me on a regular basis, it was four years too long! I wonder if other women identify with needing a house that is really a home. One that does everything you need it to in order to make life run smoother and more efficient. I do, for sure. Our house (what I lovingly call the “Patchwork House” due to its varying decades of style when we purchased it), is a great starter house. It’s got everything you need in a first house, including a lot of updates and a lovely fenced yard. The first three months of updates was exciting, but once Maxine joined the family, the time and cash to continue the updates were in competition with diapers and travel, otherwise known as time and money. We are putting our house on the market sometime in March with the hope of purchasing a new (to us) house by June. I realize the hard work that lies ahead – packing, cleaning, completing repairs, etc., but really I am so excited to have closet space and an open floor plan, I can hardly stand it.

Let the fun commence.

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Life Lately: January 2018

Wow, friends! Has it really been over six months since my last post? #Momlife and work life have me wading a bit in the deep end of the pool. I decided in early June to go back to work and (thankfully!) immediately found a position with my previous employer. The working conditions could not be better for me or my family, and I’m already familiar with the responsibilities of the position, so it has generally been an easy transition. Though the thought of leaving the baby at home was challenging – she was only three months old, being out of the house daily has made me a better mom to both girls. But I applaud so hard the moms who are better moms when they stay home with their children; they have a true gift and talent that I definitely do not have. In staying home with my older daughter, Max, who turned three in November, I realized that I wasn’t being the best mom I could be, nor was I being the best version of myself while I was at home. I think that is the great thing about motherhood as a state of being; it is diverse. We come from all walks of life, all parenting styles, all types of love languages, all varying ways of managing the household and kids, and all levels of simply being and getting through each exhausting day.

Parenting my older daughter is not what I expected it to be. I had always imagined having a daughter, and while, yes, she would be challenging, she wouldn’t be anywhere near the energy level of a boy. We would play dolls and learning games. She would sit next to me while I read her picture books about rabbits and frogs and fairies. She would excitedly let me brush and style her hair. She would be sweet and polite and happy to go to bed at the end of the day. Are you laughing yet!? Max is anything but a stereotypical girl. She has as much or more energy than the boys in her preschool class. She excels in art – painting, is her favorite form, but getting her to sit long enough to complete a full picture is impossible. She prefers grazing on snacks while running around the house to sitting at the table for a meal. One minute, she’s a doctor; the next, an architect building a boat or constructing a train. Following that, she’s racing cars down the living room floor. And this isn’t new; she’s been active since she was an infant–always needing to be engaged with someone and something (bless her heart).

I watch her sister now and they couldn’t be more different. And while, yes, I realize all children in one family can be vastly different from one another, it never ceases to amaze me how different Lo is from Max. She will sit and play with blocks or finger puppets or an activity cube for a half hour, alone. She will cuddle with us and loves to be kissed on. She giggles and laughs at everything her sister does and attempts to practice fine motor skills with us if we engage her. She is trying to crawl and loves to stand with one of us holding her up. She’s just a plump, happy baby.

A lot of parents have told me that if they had their more challenging kid first, they wouldn’t have had another one. And while I do consider Max to be more active and consistently engaged (a positive way to say more challenging), having her sister, Flora, was a redemption in many ways. Flora’s mellow, laid-back personality is a compliment to Max’s rambunctious, independent personality.  What would parenting be without some excitement?

“The soul is healed by being with children.” ― Fyodor Dostoyevsky

 

 

 

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File This Under: Mom Life!

Hello, friends. Happy Monday! How was your weekend?

Weekends in our house are often a gift as Nathan often works traffic control for the City of Seattle/police department, whether mandatory overtime or contracted overtime. Often, we just don’t know until the end of the week whether it will be a family weekend with him home or a weekend where I am alone with the girls. And the latter is so, so challenging for me because by the end of the week, I’m really out of breath! Can you relate? And the spring and summer are particularly difficult because Seattle has so many more sporting events, activities, and construction projects that require officers like my husband to be available for work.

I know most stay-at-home parents out there know how hard it is to be with kids alone five days a week. And when that time is extended to six or seven days a week (which makes almost two weeks straight by the next weekend)–wow! This was one of those weekends! My poor husband worked Friday night, Saturday, and Sunday morning after a week of regular work and some overtime. Whew. Here’s to hoping the coming weekend is more relaxed for him (and me, too!).

Manson, Washington | Lake Chelan
Manson, Washington | Lake Chelan

Mother’s day weekend we drove back to our favorite getaway–Lake Chelan–to stay in the caseta at our friend’s cabin in the rolling hills of Manson, Washington. It was a last minute trip, so we packed up and drove out there Friday night so that our Saturday could be well-spent relaxing and having some fun. But let me tell you–it ended up being one of the most challenging and disappointing weekends a mother could have. And I think, in the end, it really made me hit my bottom. There was a lot of cranky toddler action filled with tantrums and refusals to sleep. Lots of crying. A two-month-old who cried when she wasn’t asleep. A frustrated husband and daddy. And a depleted mama. It was really a messy weekend. Which is hard to believe when you have this view from your porch:

Manson, Washington | Lake Chelan
Manson, Washington | Lake Chelan
evening walks
Evening Walks

I have been really struggling lately with the two girls. I am so grateful and feel so blessed that the first two months with baby Flora were smooth and maneuverable. For the most part, I think Maxine thought that the baby was just visiting and so it was “tolerable” for her to  have Flora around. But reality seems to have set in that the baby isn’t leaving, and that, mixed with her recent promotion into a twin-sized bed, has made life a lot more challenging! Until last week, she chose to sleep on the floor (where we set up blankets for her), which was no big thing. But the tantrums and general unfavorable behavior is really hard for me. I have been praying a lot for grace and wisdom for how to handle this “terrible twos” time. Maxine has always been spirited, busy, and generally bored with toys, so I find challenge in keeping her entertained and engaged during the day, and with learning activities. She loves art, the outdoors, and watching her favorite Disney princesses on TV or in movies (which isn’t how I want her to spend time).

And Flora is a good baby, but quite fussy and demanding. She’s a bit colicky as well, which by the end of the day gets extremely taxing for me. That being said, she’s also a very happy baby and loves to coo and talk with me. Her smile really melts my heart.

Seattle finally received its due of sunshine and warm weather, and we have been enjoying a plethora of outdoor activities. Praise! Haha. Seriously, though, it is my saving grace when needing to keep my 2.5 year-old engaged, happy, and tired out for her bedtime.

Seattle, Washington | Madrona Playground
Seattle, Washington | Madrona Playground

Enjoy your Monday, friends! And check out hikes we’ve enjoyed, our Hiking Passport for recommendations on baby levels for hikes, or follow us on Instagram to see more of our outside adventures!

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