We are five days out from the new baby’s birth. Everyone is packed and ready for their destinations – Maxine to my sister’s house; Nathan and I to the hospital for a few days. A nursery is set up in our master suite bedroom. We have prepared Maxine as much as I think we can prepare her, but she shows quite a bit of ambivalence towards “new baby sister” and her arrival. That confuses me quite a bit, but I’m rolling with it for right now. We need to finish up a little bit of grocery shopping in the next week, but otherwise, I don’t feel like we could be more prepared to bring home a new baby.
In what feels like the worst timing ever, Maxine has started to not nap every day; that turns into her being overly tired by her 8 PM bedtime, which then often turns into her not falling asleep until 10 PM. It is extremely frustrating, so we have decided to take away the small amount of sugar she does get as well as all TV and screen time (also generally limited). It’s caused both Nathan and I a good deal of stress, though he handles it much better than I do.
We were able to get out on a date night last Friday to take a class on how to make a living wall frame filled with succulents. The class itself was informative and fun, and we made a beautiful display that will hang on our dining room wall. But, it was pretty expensive at $106 for 10 small succulent plants and plugs in a 5×5 (or so) reclaimed-wood planter frame. We have been wanting to propagate and grow from seed our succulents and bonsai plants, so this was a great activity for us to do together, especially as a “last date night” we will have in a while.
Take a look…
When we had Maxine, we had moved into our house only a few months earlier. We had a room for her, but we weren’t really settled into the house. I didn’t like the flowery, pink and white themes that baby girl nurseries often or stereotypically get. I had a few items leftover from my foster parenting days, and, in general, I wasn’t very choosey or intentional about decor, despite being over the moon about having a girl. I was working full-time, and I was exhausted, more so than even with this pregnancy. So putting too much work into baby deco wasn’t high on my list.
This time around, however, we know that this is the last baby – and a girl, and so I did not want to let any option or convenience pass me by if I could get away with it. Interestingly, we chose to NOT have a separate nursery for baby #2. Instead, we set up space for her in our master suite bedroom and plan to move her into Maxine’s (large) bedroom when she’s six months old and sleeping through the night (whichever comes last). We’re doing that for a couple of reasons. One, we want to save our guest room for guests – and storage. Two, we want the girls to be close friends, to share and learn together, and enjoy their childhood. And maybe when they’re a little older, we can put them into separate spaces.
I love our master bedroom for its abundance of natural light, massive space, and coziness. It’s the only room upstairs (aside from the bath), and it makes for the warmest place to care for a family and a newborn in those first few days and weeks.
Mondays always seem to arrive super quickly when you’re heading into the weekend (amIright?!), and I hope that this Monday is no exception. We are eager and excited to meet this final family member!